Paralyzed in 2014 crash that killed her beloved husband, Robinette Tilley stays in family business
Robinette Tilley is the boss. The fact that she rides a wheelchair now instead of a motorcycle hasn’t changed that.
Tilley was in her customary spot, sitting behind her husband, Don, on his Harley-Davidson when the motorcycle crashed on Aug. 29, 2014 near Mile Post 394 on the Blue Ridge Parkway in Buncombe County. Don, 78, was killed in the wreck.
A shattered right arm, broken neck and pelvis, and seriously damaged spinal cord sent Robinette to six different hospitals in six months. Doctors told Tilley’s family she would never return home.
Those doctors didn’t know Tilley, or the determination of her family.
Tilley, now 76, was driven to get back to running Tilley Harley-Davidson, the Statesville business she started with her husband in 1972.
And she did.
“I had a family to come home to,” she says.
Starting from the bottom
After the crash, Tilley was taken to Mission Hospital in Asheville. Surgeons used metal hardware to piece together her shattered arms and pelvis. While at Mission, Tilley could not speak, drink or eat traditionally. She used a tracheotomy tube inserted into her throat to breathe.
Tilley eventually moved across the street to St. Joseph’s Hospital and then to the facility the Tilley family has called its saving grace: the Shepherd Center in Atlanta.
The Shepherd Center is a nonprofit hospital that specializes in rehabilitating patients with spinal cord and brain injuries, or, as Tilley’s daughter Denise Tilley LeVan calls it, “the Disney World of wheelchairs.”
Shepherd Center, which typically shies away from working with young children and older adults, turned down Tilley for treatment twice. The third time, the hospital finally said yes.
“They got her up, got her dressed and put her in a wheelchair,” LeVan says. “We all had to train to take care of her.”
‘She’s the bomb’
The Shepherd Center trained LeVan, her sister Donna and brother Derek on how to take care of Tilley a week at a time. The instruction included how to maintain Tilley’s tracheotomy, dress her, check her for pressure wounds and deal with spikes in her blood pressure.
Without the training, Tilley’s family believes she would not have made it home.
“Most people who have her injury end up in a nursing home because the family does not know how to take care of them. They don’t have a clue,” Donna Tilley says. “A lot of the nurses in these hospitals we were in did not know how to take care of mom because unless that’s a specialty, they don’t know.”
At Shepherd Center, Tilley’s vocal cords were injected with collagen, which helped her speak again. She also regained the ability to drink and eat.
“I was certainly glad when I was able to actually drink,” Tilley says.
Tilley left the Shepherd Center in January 2015. She was transferred to a skilled nursing facility in Taylorsville, where she developed the flu and double pneumonia. She was then sent to the ICU at Frye Regional Medical Center in Hickory and finally a specialty center in Winston-Salem.
On March 6, 2015, Tilley finally made it home.
“When she got that flu and pneumonia, we about lost her a couple times,” LeVan says. “She kept fighting and kept fighting and kept fighting, and she had the will to live, so she’s tough. I don’t know that I could have done it. She’s the bomb.”
A new normal
Tilley’s life was much different when she finally got home. Before the accident, she visited the business every day and took a Zumba fitness class twice a week. Tilley’s daughters believe their mother’s healthy lifestyle before the crash helped her in her recovery.
Now, Tilley lives in the den of her home, where a ramp and widened doorways allow her to move around in her wheelchair.
Mentally preparing for living life without the ability to walk was a challenge, Tilley says.
“I felt like I could do anything I wanted to, so I had to wait through that,” she says. “But I felt like I would get better each day.”
And that’s the way things have worked out.
“Mom’s spirit has stayed up the whole time, pretty much,” Donna Tilley says. “Now she goes into the Harley shop three or four days a week and gets her hair done, and we have her on Wednesdays with the (great-grand) babies.”
Tilley is cared for by a nurse three days a week, and attends occupational and physical therapy weekly. Donna Tilley takes care of her mother on Wednesdays, Levan takes care of her on Fridays, Derek Tilley stays at the house with her every night, and the three rotate weekends.
Life now is a “different normal, but it’s normal for us,” Donna Tilley says.
Tilley no longer needs a tracheotomy, her pressure wounds are nearly gone and the blood pressure issues she had when she first came home have subsided.
Future updates to Tilley’s wheelchair will help her work on regaining the use of her arms.
“We just tried to make the best decisions for mom that we could,” Donna Tilley says. “We were just so focused on her, and then the grieving does come a little later for Daddy.”
Losing their father and almost losing their mother was the family’s “worst nightmare,” LeVan says.
“We lost our daddy and then they’re sitting there telling us, ‘You’ll never take her home,’” she adds. “We just were kind of in shock and we all kind of looked at each other and said, ‘Yeah, we will.’ It was a lot.”
Community comes together
The support of the community has helped the family stay positive and move forward.
Statesville High School’s stadium was filled with 6,000 people for Don Tilley’s memorial service.
“I never thought we’d have 6,000 people at my dad’s funeral,” Donna Tilley says. “It was just unbelievable.”
Former NASCAR President Mike Helton reached out to the family and organized a fundraising motorcycle ride called “Ride for Robinette.” The event raised $11,000, which the Tilley family has used to help pay for hospital bills and other needs.
Manheim Auctions paid for the family to stay in a hotel for two months while Tilley was treated at Missions Hospital, and Helton paid for two months in a hotel for the family while she was being treated at the Shepherd Center.
“Everybody in the community has just rallied,” Donna Tilley says. “People still come in at the shop and say, ‘How’s your mom? Tell her we are still praying for her.’”
As for getting back on a motorcycle after the accident, the Tilley siblings say they have no fear.
“My daddy always said you can’t be afraid to live,” LeVan says.
As for Robinette Tilley, the accident changed her, but not her role as boss of the family business.
“She still goes in and makes decisions,” Donna Tilley says. “She has to talk to every department. She’s still the boss and that’s just it in a nutshell. And she’ll be the boss for as long as she’s here.”
By Chloe Moores